For the last one week or so, I have been in some village working, talking to women about finances. Never mind how I got the job considering my experience. In terms of ‘creating change’ and ‘making an impact’ the job was fine. But in terms of mental and physical stimulation, rather dull. I couldn’t do it for a month. And it’s a struggle to adjust to a formal setting with set hours, a boss, and targets. Anyway, I am done with the work and coming back to the city. So I am supposed to quit in less than a week? I don’t know. I surely don’t know.
Meanwhile, I have quickly answered a few questions.
13. Hi Sue, I met a Kenyan lady and became friends with her. Because I was better off financially, I decided to help her out in any way I could, and over a period of about 9 months, I have given her $1500 worth of gifts, including some cash, but she is often rude to me and rarely says thank you to me.
Normally, after I have given her something she said she needed, she immediately asks me for something else. I am a white Australian and are not sure if this is normal behaviour for Kenyan women. We are not lovers and have never had sex, just friends.
Should I end the friendship? as she never gives me anything in return, not even a thank you.
Interesting. Is that the normal behaviour of Kenyan girls? It can’t be normal, but it’s not surprising. There were days my off-the-street friends who had white boyfriends seemed confused, adoring and giving their all to the whites.
Anyway, it’s obvious you are not the only man in her life. There must be others who certainly are providing much more than you. You are for the short term and to take care of coffee expenses. Yet as much as I partially admire her for not sucking up to you like some would do, I also think she is a bit tactless, whatever her goals are. There are many in Kenya who would treat you better.
Just open your eyes and channel your cash where you get returns.
9. Hey Sue, Honestly, are you one of those mamas who starts complaining, “Maliza haraka, that’s enough now! Hujamwaga? Unakaa sana!”? Damn, that is annoying! – Gates
And are you one of those men who drink some brand of liquor and chew green herbs that make you want to go on forever while it’s obvious even your senses are drunk? Anyway kidding. Pay me well, and I won’t complain. Don’t expect unlimited time for Ksh.200, no matter the neighbourhood we are conducting the business in.
See ‘Ask Sue’ above for the rest of questions and answers.
